My Obituary in the Observer for my Mother, Annette Kurson

Chaya and Bubbe at Coldstone in South Orange, NJ. (Allison Guerriero)

My mother died on September 3, 2013, and I wrote a long obituary for her for the Observer. I felt conflicted about running it. On the one hand, I have a longstanding devotion to obituaries and remembrances of all kinds. I believe in them and ran superlong and detailed ones of lots of people, famous and non-famous. On the other hand, I was aware that a 2000-word tribute to the editor’s mother, a totally private person who almost no one knew, was kind of indulgent.

Obviously, I winded up deciding to run it. I’m glad I did. It’s not my cleanest writing, but it’s raw and powerful and really does capture some of her complexity. I remember Faye Penn really giving this a great edit, from the heart. She made such a good point about the Neiman Marcus line and I could tell she put her heart into it because she knew what this story meant to me.

You can click the link above for an audio version of me reading it.

2 thoughts on “My Obituary in the Observer for my Mother, Annette Kurson”

  1. I loved your mom and I miss her. If she was alive today I know she would saying how overly sensitive all the anti-Trump people are because he’s blunt and after I reread your obituary you used the exact word “blunt”. I’m sorry she isn’t here because I would have enjoyed some terrific conversations with her about Trump derangement! And I love that you used this photo that I took!

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